์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๋ถ™์ด๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ๋‘๋ ต๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ

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์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์ˆœ๊ฐ„, ๋งŽ์€ ์ด๋“ค์ด ๊ธด์žฅ๊ณผ ๋‘๋ ค์›€์„ ๋А๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๋ถ™์ด๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ๋‘๋ ต๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ๋ณด์„ธ์š”. ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋“ค์€ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•จ์„ ์ค„์ด๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์†Œํ†ต์˜ ๋ฌธ์„ ์—ด์–ด ์ค„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋“ค์ด ์ดˆ๋ณด์ž์˜ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋œ์–ด์ค„๊นŒ์š”? ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์˜์–ด ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘ ์‹œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ๋ฌธ์žฅ ์†Œ๊ฐœ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ ์œ ํ˜•๊ณผ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™” ์œ ๋„ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ํŒ๊ณผ ์‹ค์šฉ์ ์ธ ์—ฐ์Šต ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ• ์„ค๋ช… 1. ์˜์–ด ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘์— ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ๋ฌธ์žฅ๊ณผ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ• 1) ์ดˆ๋ณด์ž๊ฐ€ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ ๊ตฌ์„ฑ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋ง์„ ๊ฑธ ๋•Œ ๋ณต์žกํ•œ ๋ฌธ๋ฒ•์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๋ถ€๋‹ด์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ๋ฏธ๋ฆฌ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “Hi, how are you?”๋‚˜ “Excuse me, can I ask you something?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ์‹œ์ž‘์„ ๋„์™€์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์งง๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‰ฝ๊ณ , ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๋„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด์ž์—๊ฒŒ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2) ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์— ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์–ด์กฐ์™€ ๋ชธ์ง“์„ ๋”ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ• ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”! ๋ง๋ฟ๋งŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ํ‘œ์ •๊ณผ ์ œ์Šค์ฒ˜ ๋˜ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ์„ฑ๊ณต์„ ์ขŒ์šฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฏธ์†Œ๋ฅผ ์ง€์œผ๋ฉฐ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์†์„ ๋“ค์–ด ์ธ์‚ฌํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ณ ๊ฐœ๋ฅผ ๋„๋•์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์š”์†Œ๋Š” ๋ง์ด ์„œํˆด๋Ÿฌ๋„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ฒจ, ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์›ํ™œํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ด์–ด์ง€๋„๋ก ๋•์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 3) ๋ฐ˜๋ณต ์—ฐ์Šต์œผ๋กœ ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ ์Œ“๊ธฐ ์ดˆ๋ณด์ž๋Š” ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ๋ฐ˜๋ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜ผ์ž ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์—ฐ์Šต์ด๋‚˜ ์˜์–ด ํšŒํ™” ์•ฑ ํ™œ์šฉ, ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ๋„ ๋“ฑ์ด ์ข‹์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊พธ์ค€ํ•œ ์—ฐ์Šต์€ ๋‘๋ ค์›€์„ ์ค„์ด๊ณ  ์ž์‹ ๊ฐ์„ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ์ „๋žต ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2. ...

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ 12๊ฐ€์ง€

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ 12๊ฐ€์ง€

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ธฐ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ค ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ผ๊นŒ์š”? ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ 12๊ฐ€์ง€๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ์„ ๋™์‹œ์— ์ „ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋–ค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ ์ ˆํ• ์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ์‹ ๊ฐ€์š”?

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์— ๋งž๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์›Œ์ง€๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์˜ˆ์‹œ๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ํ™œ์šฉ๋„๋ฅผ ๋†’์ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

1. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ž€? ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ๊ธฐ๋ฒ•

1) ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด ์ดํ•ด

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ์†Œํ†ต์— ์žˆ์–ด ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ์„ ๋„˜์–ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”๋ฅผ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ํฌํ•จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅด๋ฏ€๋กœ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ๋งž์ถคํ˜• ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‹ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ํ”ผ๋“œ๋ฐฑ์„ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ๋™์•„์‹œ์•„๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฒธ์†๊ณผ ๋ฐฐ๋ ค๊ฐ€ ๋” ๊ฐ•์กฐ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝํ–ฅ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋งฅ๋ฝ์„ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ๋ณด๋‹ค ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์„ฑ๊ฒฉ, ๋…ธ๋ ฅ, ์„ฑ์ทจ ๋“ฑ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ๋ถ€๋ถ„์„ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “You have a great sense of humor”๋‚˜ “I really admire your dedication” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋“ค์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ž์กด๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ด๊ณ  ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ์Œ“๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ง„์ •์„ฑ์„ ๋ฐ”ํƒ•์œผ๋กœ ํ•ด์•ผ ๊ทธ ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ๊ทน๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์„ ํƒ๊ณผ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•

ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ์ ์šฉํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์„ ๋•Œ, ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์ด ๊นŠ์–ด์กŒ์„ ๋•Œ, ํ˜น์€ ๋„์›€์„ ๋ฐ›์•˜์„ ๋•Œ ๊ฐ๊ฐ ์–ด์šธ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์กด์žฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์— ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์€ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ธฐ๊ณ  ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์„ ์ด‰์ง„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค์Œ ์„น์…˜์—์„œ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ 12๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„๋กœ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•˜๋ฉฐ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์ž์„ธํžˆ ๋‹ค๋ฃจ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฃผ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ 12๊ฐ€์ง€ ์†Œ๊ฐœ ๋ฐ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•

1) ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์ฒซ์ธ์ƒ ๋‚จ๊ธฐ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ

์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์‹œ์ž‘์— ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “It’s great to meet you!”๋‚˜ “I’ve heard so much about you” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์—ด๋ฆฐ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋ฉฐ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„์‹ฌ์„ ๋‚ฎ์ถ”๋Š” ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ์™€ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์„ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ

์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋‚˜ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ•  ๋•Œ, “You’re really talented at this” ๋˜๋Š” “I admire your passion” ๋“ฑ์˜ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๊นŠ์€ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ž๊ธ์‹ฌ์„ ์ž๊ทนํ•˜๋ฉฐ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ๋„๋ฅผ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ๋ฐ ์œ ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ฐ์‚ฌ์™€ ๋ฐฐ๋ ค๋ฅผ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ

์ž‘์€ ๋„์›€์ด๋‚˜ ํ˜ธ์˜์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด “Thank you so much, I really appreciate it”์ด๋‚˜ “You’re very kind” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํŠนํžˆ ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ธ ์š”์†Œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ๋Œ€ํ‘œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์˜ˆ์‹œ

  • ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ: "It’s great to meet you!"
  • ๋…ธ๋ ฅ ์ธ์ •: "You’re really talented at this."
  • ๊ฐ์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„: "Thank you so much, I really appreciate it."

4) ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ํ˜•์„ฑ์— ๋„์›€ ๋˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์œ ํ˜•

๋ฐ˜๋ณต์ ์ธ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์†์—์„œ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ์Œ“๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ง์— ์ ๊ทน์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ณต๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๊ฐ€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “That sounds amazing!”์ด๋‚˜ “Tell me more about it” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์— ๊ท€ ๊ธฐ์šธ์—ฌ์ง„๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์—ฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

5) ์‹ ๋ขฐ ๊ตฌ์ถ•์— ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜ ํŒ

์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ์Œ“์œผ๋ ค๋ฉด ์†”์งํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐœ๋ฐฉ์ ์ธ ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ด๋ฉฐ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “I really value your opinion” ๋˜๋Š” “Let’s figure this out together” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ง์€ ํ˜‘๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์„ฑํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ์šฐ์ •๊ณผ ํ˜‘๋ ฅ ๊ด€๊ณ„์— ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

6) ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ์œ ์พŒํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ์กฐ์„ฑ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ

๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ฒ๊ณ  ๊ฐ€๋ณ๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์œ ๋จธ๋Ÿฌ์Šคํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์นญ์ฐฌ ์„ž์ธ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “You always make me laugh” ๋˜๋Š” “You have a great sense of humor” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ง์€ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ™œ๊ธฐ์ฐจ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ์ค„์ด๊ณ  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š”๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ‘œํ˜„ ์œ ํ˜• ์˜ˆ์‹œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ƒํ™ฉ ํšจ๊ณผ
์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ธ์‚ฌ It’s great to meet you! ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์„ ๋•Œ ๊ฐœ๋ฐฉ์ ์ด๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์ธ์ƒ ์ œ๊ณต
๋…ธ๋ ฅ ์ธ์ • You’re really talented at this. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ ์‹œ ์ž์กด๊ฐ ํ–ฅ์ƒ ๋ฐ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ ์ฆ์ง„
๊ฐ์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. ๋„์›€ ๋ฐ›์•˜์„ ๋•Œ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ๋ฐ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ๊ฐ•ํ™”
์œ ๋จธ์™€ ์นญ์ฐฌ You always make me laugh. ๋Œ€ํ™” ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ํ™œ๊ธฐ์ฐจ๊ฒŒ ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ์กฐ์„ฑ

๋‹ค์Œ ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด 12๊ฐ€์ง€ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ๊ฐ๊ฐ์˜ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์  ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์‘์šฉ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์ƒ์„ธํžˆ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ˜น์‹œ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•œ ์ ์ด ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?

[์ถœ์ฒ˜: Cambridge English – Making Friends Abroad]

3. ์‹ค์ œ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์‚ฌ๋ก€์™€ ํ˜„์žฅ ๊ฒฝํ—˜: ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„ ํšจ๊ณผ ๋ถ„์„

1) ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ์˜ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์ ์šฉ ๊ฒฝํ—˜

์‹ค์ œ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค๊ณผ์˜ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ๋งˆ๋‹ค ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์€ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ํ”ผ๋“œ๋ฐฑ์— ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ์‘ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, ์ผ๋ณธ์ด๋‚˜ ํ•œ๊ตญ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์€ ๊ฒธ์†์„ ์ค‘์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™” ํŠน์„ฑ์„ ๊ฐ์•ˆํ•ด ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋ฐฐ๋ ค ๊นŠ์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ, ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋งž์ถ˜ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ ํ˜•์„ฑ์— ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž„์„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ํ™•์ธํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ „ํ›„ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ณ€ํ™” ์‚ฌ๋ก€

ํ•œ ์ฐธ์—ฌ์ž์˜ ์‚ฌ๋ก€๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋ฉด, ์ฒ˜์Œ์—๋Š” ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ–ˆ๋˜ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ “I really admire your dedication” ๊ฐ™์€ ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์นญ์ฐฌ์„ ๊ณ„๊ธฐ๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ํ™œ๋ฐœํ•ด์ง€๊ณ  ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์ด ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ–ฅ์ƒ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๋„ ๋น„์Šทํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ƒํ˜ธ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ์กด์ค‘์ด ๊นŠ์–ด์กŒ์ฃ .

์ด์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ์งˆ์„ ๋†’์ด๊ณ , ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์„ ์ด‰์ง„ํ•˜๋Š” ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ๋„๊ตฌ์ž„์ด ์ž…์ฆ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€ ์˜๊ฒฌ๊ณผ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋„ ๊ฐ•ํ™”

์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜ ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ์ง„์†”ํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์‚ฌํšŒ์  ์œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ•ํ™”ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. Psychology Today์˜ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด, ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ž์กด๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ด๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ƒํ˜ธ์ž‘์šฉ ๋นˆ๋„๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ฐ€์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ, ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์„ ํƒ์— ์‹ ์ค‘์„ ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง„์ •์„ฑ์„ ๋‹ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ด๋Š” ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 1: ๋ฌธํ™”๋ณ„ ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ณ  ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํƒํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 2: ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 3: ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ํ›„ ์ƒ๋Œ€ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๊ด€์ฐฐํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€์„ธ์š”.
์š”์†Œ ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ์นญ์ฐฌ ๋ฐฐ๋ ค ์ค‘์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ
๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ, ์œ ๋Ÿฝ ๋™์•„์‹œ์•„ ๋ฌธํ™”๋ณ„ ๋ฐ˜์‘ ์ฐจ์ด ๋ช…ํ™•
๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์˜ˆ์‹œ "You have a great sense of humor." "You’re very kind, I appreciate that." ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์„ ํƒ ์ค‘์š”
๊ด€๊ณ„ ๊ฐœ์„  ์†๋„ ๋น ๋ฆ„ ์ ์ง„์  ์ƒํ˜ธ ์กด์ค‘๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ ๊ตฌ์ถ•
์‚ฌ์šฉ์ž ๋งŒ์กฑ๋„ ๋†’์Œ(85%) ๋ณดํ†ต ์ด์ƒ(78%) ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ฆ์ง„ ํšจ๊ณผ ๋ชจ๋‘ ์žˆ์Œ

4. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์‹ค์ˆ˜ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‰ฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ

1) ๊ณผ๋„ํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๋ถ€์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„

๊ณผ๋„ํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ง„์ •์„ฑ์„ ์˜์‹ฌ๋ฐ›์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “You’re the best person I’ve ever met!”์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ณผ์žฅ๋œ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•จ์„ ์œ ๋ฐœํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ์Œ“๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด๋ฉฐ, ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋‹ด๊ธด ๋ง๋งŒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

2) ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฏผ๊ฐ์„ฑ ๋ฌด์‹œ ์‹œ ๋ฐœ์ƒํ•˜๋Š” ์˜คํ•ด

์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‹ ์ง์ ‘์  ํ‘œํ˜„๋งŒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ํŠนํžˆ ๊ฒธ์†์„ ์ค‘์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ, ์ƒ๋Œ€ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋งž๋Š” ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ†ค๊ณผ ๋งํˆฌ๋ฅผ ์ตํžˆ๊ณ  ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์‹œ๊ธฐ์™€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ฃผ์˜

๋Œ€ํ™” ์ดˆ๋ฐ˜์— ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€๋กœ ์นœ๋ฐ€ํ•œ ์‚ฌ์ด์—๋„ ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฒฉ์‹์„ ์ฐจ๋ฆฌ๋ฉด ๊ฑฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ์„ ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘๊ณผ ํ˜„์žฌ ๋Œ€ํ™” ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์„ธ์‹ฌํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ณ  ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์„ ํƒํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 1: ์ง„์‹ฌ ์—†๋Š” ์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ์ง€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 2: ๋ฌธํ™” ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋ฉด ์˜๋„์™€ ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 3: ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ์นœ๋ฐ€๋„์— ๋งž์ถฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

5. ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์™€ ๋ฐœ์ „์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ํ™œ์šฉ ์ „๋žต

1) ๊พธ์ค€ํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ๊ณผ ๊ณต๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์‹ ๋ขฐ ๊ฐ•ํ™”

ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ์˜ ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ๋๋‚ด์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ , ๊พธ์ค€ํžˆ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์— ๊ณต๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๋ณด์—ฌ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “Tell me more about it” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ง€์†์ ์ธ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ์Œ“๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ๊ณผ์ •์—์„œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„๊ณผ ์ƒํ™ฉ ๋ณ€ํ™”์— ์„ธ์‹ฌํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ํ˜‘๋ ฅ์ ์ธ ํƒœ๋„ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ธฐ

ํ˜‘๋ ฅ์ ์ด๊ณ  ๊ฐœ๋ฐฉ์ ์ธ ์ž์„ธ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ, ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “Let’s figure this out together”๋Š” ์–ด๋ ค์›€ ์†์—์„œ๋„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋ฅผ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•˜์ž๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜์—ฌ ๊นŠ์€ ์œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Š” ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ๋„˜์–ด ์ง„์ •ํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์œ ๋จธ์™€ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ์นญ์ฐฌ์œผ๋กœ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ๋ฐํžˆ๊ธฐ

๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ฆ๊ฒ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ์œ ๋จธ์™€ ์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค ํ•ด์†Œ์™€ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ฆ๋Œ€์‹œ์ผœ ๊ด€๊ณ„์— ํ™œ๋ ฅ์„ ๋ถˆ์–ด๋„ฃ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “You always make me laugh” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋˜ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ „๋žต ๋Œ€ํ‘œ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ํšจ๊ณผ ์žฅ๊ธฐ์  ์œ ์ง€ ์š”์†Œ
๊พธ์ค€ํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ “Tell me more about it.” ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ๊ณต๊ฐ ๊ฐ•ํ™” ์ง€์†์  ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ฐธ์—ฌ
ํ˜‘๋ ฅ์  ํƒœ๋„ “Let’s figure this out together.” ๋ฌธ์ œ ํ•ด๊ฒฐ ์˜์ง€ ๊ณต์œ  ์ƒํ˜ธ ์ง€์›๊ณผ ์กด์ค‘
์œ ๋จธ์™€ ์นญ์ฐฌ “You always make me laugh.” ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ๋ฐํž˜, ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ์ƒ์Šน ๊ธ์ •์  ๋Œ€ํ™” ํ™˜๊ฒฝ ์œ ์ง€

6. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ์˜์–ด ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ํ™œ์šฉ ์‹œ ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์‹ค๋ฌด ํŒ

1) ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ๋นˆ๋„์™€ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ ์กฐ์ ˆ๋ฒ•

ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ์ง„์ •์„ฑ์ด ๋–จ์–ด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฏ€๋กœ, ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™” ํ๋ฆ„ ์†์—์„œ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์„ ํฌ์ฐฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ณต๊ฐํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•  ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ ธ๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

2) ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๊ธฐ

ํ‘œ์ •, ๋ˆˆ๋งž์ถค, ๊ณ ๊ฐœ ๋„๋•์ž„ ๋“ฑ ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์‹ ํ˜ธ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐฐ๊ฐ€๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ง๋ฟ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ํ–‰๋™์œผ๋กœ๋„ ๊ด€์‹ฌ๊ณผ ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ์Šต๊ด€์„ ๋“ค์ด์„ธ์š”.

3) ์‹ค์ˆ˜ ์‹œ ๋Œ€์ฒ˜์™€ ์ˆ˜์ • ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

๋•Œ๋กœ๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™” ์ฐจ์ด๋กœ ์ธํ•ด ์˜๋„์น˜ ์•Š์€ ์˜คํ•ด๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ธธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋•Œ๋Š” ์†”์งํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์˜๋„๋ฅผ ์„ค๋ช…ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‚ฌ๊ณผํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ์‹ค๋ฌด ํŒ 1: ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™” ํ๋ฆ„ ์†์—์„œ ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ์‹ค๋ฌด ํŒ 2: ๋ง๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์ ๊ทน ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋„๊ฐ€ ์ƒ์Šนํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์‹ค๋ฌด ํŒ 3: ์˜คํ•ด ๋ฐœ์ƒ ์‹œ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์„ค๋ช…๊ณผ ์‚ฌ๊ณผ๋กœ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ํšŒ๋ณตํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

7. ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ (FAQ)

Q. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋‹ด๊ฒจ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์„ฑ๊ฒฉ, ๋…ธ๋ ฅ, ์„ฑ์ทจ ๋“ฑ ํŠน์ • ๋ถ€๋ถ„์„ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋”์šฑ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์ผ๋ฐ˜ ์นญ์ฐฌ๋ณด๋‹ค ๊ฐœ์ธ ๋งž์ถคํ˜• ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ์Œ“๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฌธ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐœ์ƒํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋ฉด ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๊ณผ์žฅ๋œ ์นญ์ฐฌ์€ ๋™์•„์‹œ์•„ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ ๋ถ€์ ์ ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋งž์ถ˜ ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ํ†ค ์กฐ์ ˆ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ”๋กœ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด๋„ ๋ ๊นŒ์š”?
์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง๊ณผ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์  ์นญ์ฐฌ์ด ์ ์ ˆํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ณผํ•œ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„์‹ฌ์„ ์œ ๋ฐœํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฏ€๋กœ, ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ๋ฅธ ๋’ค ์ ์ง„์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์™ธ๊ตญ์–ด๋กœ ์นญ์ฐฌํ•  ๋•Œ ๋ฐœ์Œ์ด๋‚˜ ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ์‹ค์ˆ˜๊ฐ€ ๊ฑฑ์ •๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๊ทน๋ณตํ• ๊นŒ์š”?
์™„๋ฒฝํ•œ ๋ฌธ๋ฒ•์ด๋‚˜ ๋ฐœ์Œ๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋” ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๊ณ  ์‰ฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์œผ๋ฉฐ, ์‹ค์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋‘๋ ค์›Œํ•˜์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€์„ธ์š”. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ๊ณผ ์ง„์‹ฌ์„ ๋†’์ด ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด๋„ ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์ž˜ ํ’€๋ฆฌ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ• ๊นŒ์š”?
๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์›ํ™œํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๋•Œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋‚˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋” ์ฃผ์˜ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ๊ด€์ฐฐํ•˜๊ณ , ์—ด๋ฆฐ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ๋˜์ง€๋ฉฐ ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์„ฑํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋Š” ๋ณด์กฐ ์ˆ˜๋‹จ์ด๋ฉฐ, ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ๊ฒฝ์ฒญ๊ณผ ๊ณต๊ฐ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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