์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฒ•

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์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋ง์„ ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋ณด๋‹ค ์–ด๋ ต๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด๋‚˜ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ด ๋‹ฌ๋ผ ๋ง‰๋ง‰ํ•  ๋•Œ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์ฃ . ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”? ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฒ• ์„ ์ตํžˆ๋ฉด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค๊ฐ€๊ฐˆ ๋•Œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ•์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ๋งž์ถคํ˜• ๋ฌธ์žฅ๊ณผ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘๋ฒ•์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์‹ค์ „ ํ™œ์šฉ๋„๋ฅผ ๋†’์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ๊ณผ ์–ธ์–ด ๊ฐ๊ฐ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ์กฐ์–ธ์œผ๋กœ ์˜คํ•ด ์—†์ด ์†Œํ†ตํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•ˆ๋‚ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 1. ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ํ‘œํ˜„ 1) ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์˜์–ด ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋จผ์ € ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ธ์‚ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด์—์„œ๋Š” “Hi, how’s it going?”์ด๋‚˜ “Hey, what’s up?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์€ ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์›Œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๋ผ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์ ๊ทน ์ถ”์ฒœ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2) ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ๋ฌผ๊ผฌ ํŠธ๊ธฐ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”! ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€์™€์˜ ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I noticed you like music. What’s your favorite band?” ๊ฐ™์€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ™•์žฅ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์—ฌ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 3) ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ๋ถ€ํƒ์ด๋‚˜ ์ œ์•ˆ์œผ๋กœ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ์Œ“๊ธฐ “Do you want to grab a coffee sometime?” ํ˜น์€ “Would you like to join us for lunch?” ๊ฐ™์€ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์„ ๋†’์ž…...

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ?

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ?

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ, ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ? ์–ด๋–ค ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ผ๊นŒ์š”? ์ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ๋‹ต๋ณ€๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์‚ดํŽด๋ด…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ™˜ํ•˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„๋กœ ๊ตฌ๋ถ„ํ•ด ์„ค๋ช…ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘๊ณผ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ์‹ค์šฉ์ ์ธ ์˜์–ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋“ค์„ ์ œ์‹œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋งฅ๋ฝ๊ณผ ์–ด๊ฐ ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ๋ฒ•์„ ์•ˆ๋‚ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

1. ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ์˜๋ฏธ

1) ‘Let’s just be friends’ – ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง์„ค์ ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์ด ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” “Let’s just be friends”์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์ด ์•„๋‹Œ ์ˆœ์ˆ˜ํ•œ ์šฐ์ •์œผ๋กœ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ณ ์ž ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ„๊ฒฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ์˜คํ•ดํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋„๋ก ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ์–ด์กฐ์™€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๋Š” ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์„ค๋ช…์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “I really enjoyed meeting you, but I think we’d get along better as friends”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ์˜ ๋А๋‚Œ์„ ์ตœ์†Œํ™”ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ์šฐ์ •์˜ ์˜๋„๋ฅผ ์ „ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ‘How about hanging out as friends?’ – ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ

์ข€ ๋” ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ๋Š” “How about hanging out as friends?”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘hang out’์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ผ๋ฆฌ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋ง๋กœ, ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋„๋ฅผ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ์ด๋ฏธ ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ํ˜•์„ฑ๋œ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ํŠนํžˆ ์ ํ•ฉํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๊ธ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ผ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ๋†’์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ‘I’d like to keep things casual’ – ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ์˜์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ “I’d like to keep things casual”์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ ‘casual’์€ ‘๊ฒฉ์‹ ์—†๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š”’ ์˜๋ฏธ๋กœ, ๋ถ€๋‹ด๊ฐ์„ ์ค„์ด๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ์ฃผ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๋А๋‚Œ์„ ์ฃผ์–ด, ์ดํ›„์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2. ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ํ™œ์šฉ ํŒ

1) ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ดํ›„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ ๋‚จ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ

์ฒซ ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ…์ด ๋๋‚œ ์งํ›„, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š์œผ๋ฉด์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ œ์•ˆํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” “It was great meeting you! Let’s keep in touch as friends.”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ ์ ˆํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘keep in touch’๋Š” ์—ฐ๋ฝ์„ ๊ณ„์†ํ•˜์ž๋Š” ๋œป์œผ๋กœ, ์šฐ์ •์˜ ์‹œ์ž‘์„ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์•Œ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ธฐ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ๋‚ฎ์ถ”์–ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์ด์–ด์งˆ ๋•Œ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„

๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋А ์ •๋„ ์ด์–ด์ง„ ์ƒํƒœ์—์„œ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด “We should hang out sometime, just as friends.”์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ‘์–ธ์  ๊ฐ€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ๋งŒ๋‚˜์ž’๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋กœ, ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋กœ๋งจ์Šค์  ๊ธฐ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ๋ฐฐ์ œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๊ฐ™์€ ์˜๋„๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋„๋ก ๋•์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ผ ๋•Œ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๊ธฐ

์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๊ณ„์† ๋ณด๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด “I really value our friendship and hope we can keep it that way.”๋ผ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์„ ์„ ๊ธ‹๋Š” ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ๋Œ€ํ™”์— ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ์‚ฝ์ž…ํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•ด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ด์–ด์ง€๋Š” ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ์ฃผ์š” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ์š”์•ฝ

  • Let’s just be friends – ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์ œ์•ˆ
  • How about hanging out as friends? – ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ
  • I’d like to keep things casual – ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€
ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜๋ฏธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ƒํ™ฉ ์–ด๊ฐ ๋ฐ ์ฃผ์˜์ 
Let’s just be friends ์šฐ์ •์œผ๋กœ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ์ œ์•ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๋ฏ€๋กœ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ํ•„์š”
How about hanging out as friends? ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ์—์„œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์š”์ฒญ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋А๋‚Œ
I’d like to keep things casual ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„ ํฌ๋ง ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์ดˆ๊ธฐ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„์ด๊ณ ์ž ํ•  ๋•Œ ‘casual’์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋งฅ๋ฝ ์ดํ•ด ํ•„์š”
Let’s keep in touch as friends ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ์—ฐ๋ฝ ์œ ์ง€ ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ดํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„

๋‹ค์Œ ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์„ ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์— ์ ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ์‚ฌ๋ก€์™€ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋‰˜์•™์Šค ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ์‹ฌ์ธต์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‹ค๋ฃฐ ์˜ˆ์ •์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3. ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‚ฌ๋ก€๋กœ ๋ณธ ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ์ „๋žต

1) ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ดํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๋‹ด

์ฒซ ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ…์—์„œ ์„œ๋กœ ์ข‹์€ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ฒผ์ง€๋งŒ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ฐ์ •์€ ์—†์—ˆ๋˜ ์กด๊ณผ ์‚ฌ๋ผ๋Š” “It was great meeting you! Let’s keep in touch as friends.”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์„ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๋ถ„์„ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด์—ˆ๊ณ , ๋‘ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ์ทจ๋ฏธ์™€ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์กด์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์ด ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์ง€์†์— ๊ธ์ •์  ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์ณค๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๊ฐ ์—†์ด ์šฐ์ •์„ ์ œ์•ˆํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์‹ค์šฉ์ ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ์ ์—์„œ ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค๋„ ์ถ”์ฒœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ค‘ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ๊ณผ ๋ฐ˜์‘

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ๋ช‡ ์ฐจ๋ก€ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ฃผ๊ณ ๋ฐ›์€ ํ›„, ์—๋ฐ€๋ฆฌ๋Š” “How about hanging out as friends?”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ œ์•ˆํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๋„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๊ธ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ ์ดํ›„ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๋ฒˆ ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ์‚ฌ๋ก€๋Š” ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ํ†ค๊ณผ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์ด ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ™˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•จ์„ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์‚ดํ”ผ๋ฉด์„œ ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์ „๋žต์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ์‹ ํ˜ธ ์ฐจ๋‹จ๊ณผ ์šฐ์ • ๊ฐ•์กฐ์˜ ์‹ค์šฉ์  ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•

์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๊ณ„์† ๋ฐ์ดํŠธ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋‚ผ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ๋งˆ์ดํฌ๋Š” “I really value our friendship and hope we can keep it that way.”๋ผ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์œผ๋กœ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์šฐ์ •์˜ ์„ ์„ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๊ด€๊ณ„์˜ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์„ฑ์„ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ๊ฐ์ •์  ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋ฅผ ์ตœ์†Œํ™”ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์กฐ์–ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 1: ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์งํ›„ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ธ์‚ฌ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ์„œ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์„ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๊ฒ ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 2: ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›Œ์งˆ ๋•Œ ์บ์ฃผ์–ผํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ์„ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 3: ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๋ณด์ผ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์œผ๋กœ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ์„ ์„ ๊ธ‹๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
ํ‘œํ˜„ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ํ›„๊ธฐ ์žฅ์  ๋‹จ์ 
Let’s keep in touch as friends ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์—ฐ๋ฝ ์œ ์ง€ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๋ถ„ ์œ ์ง€, ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์— ์ ํ•ฉ ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ ์‹œ ๋ชจํ˜ธํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ
How about hanging out as friends? ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ณ  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ์— ํšจ๊ณผ์  ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ ์—†์„ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ
I really value our friendship and hope we can keep it that way. ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ์‹ ํ˜ธ ์ฐจ๋‹จ์— ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•จ ์ƒ๋Œ€ ๊ฐ์ • ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์„  ๊ธ‹๊ธฐ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ ๊ฐ์ • ์ƒํ•  ์œ„ํ—˜์ด ์ ์ง€๋งŒ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๊ธด์žฅ ์œ ๋ฐœ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ

4. ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ๋ฒ•

1) ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‹ ์˜์–ด์—์„œ์˜ ‘casual’๊ณผ ‘just friends’ ์˜๋ฏธ ์ฐจ์ด

๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์˜์–ด์—์„œ๋Š” ‘casual’์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ๋„ ‘๊ฒฉ์‹ ์—†๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š”’ ์˜๋ฏธ๋กœ ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ‘just friends’๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„์˜ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ, ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ์˜ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ•ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” ‘casual’ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ƒ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋œ ์ฃผ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์•”์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์˜๊ตญ๊ณผ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ์—์„œ์˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ์–ด๊ฐ ์ฐจ์ด

์˜๊ตญ๊ณผ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ์—์„œ๋Š” “Let’s just be friends”๊ฐ€ ๋‹ค์†Œ ์ง์„ค์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋“ค๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์„ ํ˜ธ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “I think we’d be better off as friends” ๊ฐ™์€ ์™„๊ณกํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋” ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ฒด๋ฉด๊ณผ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ค‘์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜ ์Šคํƒ€์ผ์ด ๋ฐ˜์˜๋œ ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ์˜ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ์‹œ ์ฃผ์˜์ 

ํ•œ๊ตญ์„ ๋น„๋กฏํ•œ ์•„์‹œ์•„ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ๋•Œ๋กœ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์„ธ์‹ฌํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐฐ๋ คํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์‚ฌ์šฉ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “I really enjoyed our time, and I hope we can be good friends”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋จผ์ € ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋˜ํ•œ, ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„์—๋„ ์ผ์ • ๊ธฐ๊ฐ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๊ฑฐ๋ฆฌ ์œ ์ง€์™€ ์˜ˆ์˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ํฐ ์—ญํ• ์„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 1: ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์— ๋งž๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ๋ฌธ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ์„ ํƒํ•ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฐฐ๋ คํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 2: ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์‹ ‘casual’ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์™„ํ™”์— ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด์ง€๋งŒ, ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ๋Š” ์˜คํ•ด๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ธธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ 3: ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์šฐ์ • ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ”๋žŒ์งํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

5. ์‹ค์šฉ์ ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์†Œํ†ต ์ „๋žต

1) ์ •๊ธฐ์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ์—ฐ๋ฝ ์œ ์ง€๋ฒ•

์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๋ ค๋ฉด ‘keep in touch’๋ฅผ ์ฃผ๊ธฐ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‹ค์ฒœํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ์•ˆ๋ถ€ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๋ถ„์„ ์ง€์†ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ณผ๋„ํ•œ ์—ฐ๋ฝ์€ ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฏ€๋กœ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์‚ดํ”ผ๋ฉฐ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๋นˆ๋„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ์™€ ์ทจ๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ

์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฐ•ํ™”ํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์„œ๋กœ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ทจ๋ฏธ๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜์œผ๋กœ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “How about grabbing coffee and chatting about that book we both like?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์— ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ ‘๊ทผ์€ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ๋†’์ด๊ณ , ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ ์—†์ด ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„ ์„ค์ •๊ณผ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ

์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ์‹œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ ์€ ์„œ๋กœ์˜ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€์™€ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด “I’d like to keep things casual” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต์€ ์˜คํ•ด๋ฅผ ์ค„์ด๊ณ , ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์†Œํ†ต ์ „๋žต ๋ชฉ์  ์ ์šฉ ์˜ˆ์‹œ ์žฅ์ 
์ •๊ธฐ์  ์•ˆ๋ถ€ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€ ๋ฐ ์นœ๋ถ„ ๊ฐ•ํ™” “Just wanted to say hi! Hope you’re doing well.” ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ์œ ์ง€
์ทจ๋ฏธ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ ๊ณต์œ  ๋ฐ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ “Let’s catch up over coffee and talk about that movie.” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™”์™€ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ์ฆ๋Œ€
๊ฒฝ๊ณ„ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ™” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜คํ•ด ๋ฐฉ์ง€ ๋ฐ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๊ฑด๊ฐ• ์œ ์ง€ “I want to keep things casual and friendly.” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ ์กฐ์œจ

6. ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ผ ๋•Œ ํ”ํžˆ ์ €์ง€๋ฅด๋Š” ์‹ค์ˆ˜์™€ ํ•ด๊ฒฐ๋ฒ•

1) ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ

์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ๋ณด์ผ ๋•Œ ์ด๋ฅผ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐ‘์ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋ฉด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋ฐ›๊ธฐ ์‰ฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿด ๋•Œ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ์™„ํ™”ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “I really appreciate your feelings, but I hope we can be good friends”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋น ๋ฅธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์œผ๋กœ ์˜คํ•ด ์œ ๋ฐœ

์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์งํ›„ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋นจ๋ฆฌ ‘Let’s just be friends’๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋ฉด ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๊ฐ์ด๋‚˜ ์‹ค๋ง์„ ๋А๋‚„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์™€ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ํ˜•์„ฑ ํ›„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์— ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์— ๋” ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ฒœ์ฒœํžˆ ์ ‘๊ทผํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์„ธ์‹ฌํžˆ ์‚ดํ”ผ๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์—ฐ๋ฝ ๋นˆ๋„ ์กฐ์ ˆ ์‹คํŒจ๋กœ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์†Œ์›ํ•ด์ง

์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๋ ค๋ฉด ์—ฐ๋ฝ ๋นˆ๋„๋ฅผ ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ž์ฃผ ์—ฐ๋ฝํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ , ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋œธํ•˜๋ฉด ์†Œ์›ํ•ด์งˆ ์œ„ํ—˜์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘๊ณผ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๊ฒŒ ๊ท ํ˜•์„ ๋งž์ถ”๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ์ˆ˜์ค€์„ ํŒŒ์•…ํ•˜๊ณ  ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์†Œํ†ต์ด ์žฅ๊ธฐ์  ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 1: ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑ ์‹ ํ˜ธ์— ๋ฏผ๊ฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 2: ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ด๋ฅธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๊ฐ์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์„ ์‹ ์ค‘ํžˆ ์„ ํƒํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ์ฃผ์˜์‚ฌํ•ญ 3: ์—ฐ๋ฝ ๋นˆ๋„๋ฅผ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜์—ฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

7. ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ (FAQ)

Q. ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
A. ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด “I really enjoyed meeting you, and I hope we can be good friends” ๋˜๋Š” “How about hanging out as friends sometime?” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์„ฑํ•ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ฐฐ๋ คํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์ƒ๋Œ€๊ฐ€ ๋กœ๋งจํ‹ฑํ•œ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋‚ผ ๋•Œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ์ „ํ™˜ํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋‚˜์š”?
์ƒ๋Œ€์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์šฐ์ •์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ, ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I value our friendship and hope it stays that way”๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋œ๊ณ  ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ ์œ ์ง€ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ๋ณ„๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํ‘œํ˜„์— ์ฐจ์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
๋„ค, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” ‘casual’ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์™„ํ™”์— ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด๋‚˜, ์˜๊ตญ๊ณผ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ข€ ๋” ์™„๊ณกํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์„ ํ˜ธ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„์‹œ์•„๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ • ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ๋ฐฐ๋ ค๊ฐ€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๋ฏ€๋กœ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์นœ๊ตฌ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์—ฐ๋ฝ ๋นˆ๋„๋Š” ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ์ข‹๋‚˜์š”?
์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๊ด€์ฐฐํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์„ ์—์„œ ์ •๊ธฐ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์•ˆ๋ถ€ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋นˆ๋ฒˆํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋‹ˆ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ๊ท ํ˜•์„ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•ต์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์†Œ๊ฐœํŒ… ํ›„ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋Š” ์ถ”์ฒœ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
“Let’s keep in touch as friends”, “How about hanging out as friends?”, “I’d like to keep things casual” ๋“ฑ์ด ์ถ”์ฒœ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์„ฑํ–ฅ์— ๋งž๊ฒŒ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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๊ฐ์‹ค ์ฒญ์†Œ ์š”์ฒญ·๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์“ฐ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ ํ˜ธํ…” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ •๋ฆฌ

์ง€๊ธˆ ๋†“์น˜๋ฉด ํ›„ํšŒํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๋“€์˜ค๋ง๊ณ  ํ”„๋ฆฌ๋ฏธ์—„ ๋ฌด๋ฃŒ ์ฒดํ—˜ํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”

๋งต๊ธฐ ์กฐ์ ˆ ์š”์ฒญ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜์„ธ์š”