์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฒ•

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์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋ง์„ ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋ณด๋‹ค ์–ด๋ ต๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด๋‚˜ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ด ๋‹ฌ๋ผ ๋ง‰๋ง‰ํ•  ๋•Œ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์ฃ . ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”? ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋ง ๊บผ๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฒ• ์„ ์ตํžˆ๋ฉด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค๊ฐ€๊ฐˆ ๋•Œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ•์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ๋งž์ถคํ˜• ๋ฌธ์žฅ๊ณผ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘๋ฒ•์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์‹ค์ „ ํ™œ์šฉ๋„๋ฅผ ๋†’์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ๊ณผ ์–ธ์–ด ๊ฐ๊ฐ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ์กฐ์–ธ์œผ๋กœ ์˜คํ•ด ์—†์ด ์†Œํ†ตํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•ˆ๋‚ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 1. ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ํ‘œํ˜„ 1) ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์˜์–ด ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•„์š”ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋จผ์ € ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ธ์‚ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด์—์„œ๋Š” “Hi, how’s it going?”์ด๋‚˜ “Hey, what’s up?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์€ ์ •์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์›Œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๋ผ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์ ๊ทน ์ถ”์ฒœ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2) ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ๋ฌผ๊ผฌ ํŠธ๊ธฐ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”! ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€์™€์˜ ๊ณตํ†ต ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I noticed you like music. What’s your favorite band?” ๊ฐ™์€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ™•์žฅ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์—ฌ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 3) ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ๋ถ€ํƒ์ด๋‚˜ ์ œ์•ˆ์œผ๋กœ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ์Œ“๊ธฐ “Do you want to grab a coffee sometime?” ํ˜น์€ “Would you like to join us for lunch?” ๊ฐ™์€ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์„ ๋†’์ž…...

“๋„ˆ๋ž‘ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•

“๋„ˆ๋ž‘ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•

์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„์˜ ์‹œ์ž‘์—์„œ ๋งค์šฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “๋„ˆ๋ž‘ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•์„ ์•Œ๋ฉด, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”?

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ๊ด€๊ณ„์— ๋งž๋Š” ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ๊ณผ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ• ์†Œ๊ฐœ
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ์‹œ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ ๊ณผ ๊ธ์ •์  ๋ฐ˜์‘ ์œ ๋„ ํŒ

1. ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ, ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ• ๊นŒ? – ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ๊ณผ ์ง„์‹ฌ ๋‹ด์€ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ•

1) ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ ๊ตฌ์„ฑ๋ฒ•

“๋„ˆ๋ž‘ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด”๋ฅผ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ๋•Œ, ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ์ ์ด๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ๋งํˆฌ๋Š” “I want to be friends with you”์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๋ผ ๋‹ค์†Œ ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด, ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ”๊พธ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I’d love to be friends with you”๋‚˜ “It would be great to be friends” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ด๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘would love to’ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์กด์ค‘๊ณผ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ๋‹ด์•„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž์ถ˜ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜ˆ์‹œ

์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ์–ดํˆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์ ธ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ํ•™๊ต๋‚˜ ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “Hey, would you like to hang out sometime? I think we could be good friends.”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ์ด๋ฏธ ์–ด๋А ์ •๋„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์ง€๋‚ธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “I really enjoy talking with you. I hope we can be good friends.”์™€ ๊ฐ™์ด ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋‹ด์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ๋” ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋งฅ๋ฝ์— ๋งž๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ธ์ •์  ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์ด๋Œ์–ด๋‚ด๋Š” ๋งํˆฌ์™€ ํƒœ๋„

์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋ง์„ ํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ๋ฏธ์†Œ์™€ ๋ˆˆ ๋งž์ถค ๊ฐ™์€ ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ๋Š” ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋А๊ปด์ง€๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ์—ด๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋˜ํ•œ, “No pressure, just wanted to say hi and see if we can be friends.” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„์—ฌ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด๋Œ์–ด๋ƒ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋„ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2. ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ – ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋งบ๊ธฐ ์ „๋žต

1) ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์‹œ์ž‘์˜ ๋ฏธ๋ฌ˜ํ•จ

์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์ž๋Š” ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ์ƒ๋Œ€์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‹ ์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ‘์ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ “Let’s be friends”๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹ค์†Œ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์™€ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ๋จผ์ € ์Œ“์€ ํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋‚ด๋น„์น˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„์˜ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ์Œ“๋Š” ์ฒซ๊ฑธ์Œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๋น„๊ณต์‹์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฒ•

์˜์–ด์—์„œ๋Š” “How about grabbing coffee sometime?” ํ˜น์€ “Do you want to hang out this weekend?” ๊ฐ™์€ ์ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์‹ค๋งˆ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ๋งŒ๋‚˜์ž๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๋‚ดํฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋œ ๋А๋ผ๋ฉฐ ํ˜ธ์‘ํ•  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ํฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ๊ณผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›€์ด ํ•ต์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜ˆ์˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋Œ€์‘๋ฒ•

์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ํ•ญ์ƒ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๋ฐ›๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ ์‹œ์—๋„ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “No worries, maybe another time!” ํ˜น์€ “I appreciate it, but I’m a bit busy right now.” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ง๋กœ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ž…์žฅ์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๊ฐ€ ์ข‹์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋น„๊ต

  • “I want to be friends with you” – ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋‹ค์†Œ ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•จ
  • “I’d love to be friends with you” – ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ๋А๋‚Œ
  • “Would you like to hang out sometime?” – ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ
  • “No pressure, just wanted to say hi” – ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋Š” ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•

4) ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ์‹œ ํ”ํžˆ ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค ์ฐจ์ด ํ‘œ

ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜๋ฏธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ƒํ™ฉ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค
“I want to be friends with you” ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค์†Œ ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ ์ง์„ค์ , ์ง„์ง€ํ•จ
“I’d love to be friends with you” ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์— ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์  ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚ฌ์„ ๋•Œ๋‚˜ ์นœ๋ชฉ ์ œ์•ˆ ์‹œ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ
“Would you like to hang out sometime?” ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์šฐ์ •์˜ ์‹œ์ž‘ ๋น„๊ณต์‹์  ์ƒํ™ฉ, ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ ‘๊ทผ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์Œ
“No pressure, just wanted to say hi” ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์ธ์‚ฌ์™€ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ์ดˆ๋ฉด์ด๋‚˜ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ ์™„ํ™” ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์ œ๊ฑฐ, ์นœ์ ˆํ•จ

๋‹ค์Œ ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์„ ์‹ค์ œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๊ฒŒ ์‘์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ, ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅธ ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ํŒ์„ ์ž์„ธํžˆ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

[์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐ ๋ฌธํ™” ์ฐธ๊ณ  – Cambridge Dictionary]

3. ์‹ค์ œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ “์นœ๊ตฌ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด” ํ‘œํ˜„ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์„ฑ๊ณต ์‚ฌ๋ก€

1) ํ•™๊ต์™€ ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ์˜ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•

์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ํ•™๊ต๋‚˜ ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ „ํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “Would you like to grab lunch sometime? I think we could get along well.” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ˜ธ์‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ์ฃผ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๊ฐ•์š”ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ, ๊ด€๊ณ„ ํ˜•์„ฑ์— ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์นฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์ข‹์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค์—ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ณด๊ณ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ๊ณผ ์˜คํ”„๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ์˜ ์ฐจ๋ณ„ํ™”๋œ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€ ์ „๋žต

์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ๋Š” ํ…์ŠคํŠธ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜ ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆ์ผ€์ด์…˜์ด ์ฃผ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋ฏ€๋กœ, ๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์–ธ์–ด ์‚ฌ์šฉ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “Hey! I really enjoy our chats. Would you like to be friends?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋Š” ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋А๊ปด์ง€๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์Šค๋Ÿฝ์ง€ ์•Š์•„ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ์˜คํ”„๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋ฏธ์†Œ์™€ ๋ˆˆ ๋งž์ถค ๊ฐ™์€ ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์š”์†Œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€์˜ ์ง„์ •์„ฑ์„ ๋†’์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹ค์ œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋ฅผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ณด๋‚ด๋ฉด ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์˜ ์„ฑ๊ณต๋ฅ ์ด ๋” ๋†’์•„์ง„๋‹ค๋Š” ์—ฐ๊ตฌ ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์„ฑ๊ณต ์‚ฌ๋ก€์—์„œ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๋Š” ์ง„์‹ฌ ์ „ํ•˜๊ธฐ ํŒ

ํ•œ ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์ž๋Š” ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ์นœํ•ด์ง€๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด “I’d love to be friends with you”๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด ์ข‹์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“  ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์กด์ค‘์„ ๋‹ด์•„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ฒผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋˜ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋ก€์—์„œ๋Š” “No pressure, just wanted to say hi”๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•œ ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์„ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ’€์–ด๋ƒˆ๊ณ , ์ดํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๋“ค์€ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฟ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ํƒœ๋„์™€ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•จ์„ ์‹œ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์‹ค์ œ ์ ์šฉ ์‹œ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•  ์ 

  • ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋จผ์ € ํŒŒ์•…ํ•˜๊ธฐ
  • ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ
  • ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์‹ ํ˜ธ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ง„์‹ฌ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌ
์ƒํ™ฉ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜ˆ์‹œ ์žฅ์  ์„ฑ๊ณต๋ฅ 
์ง์žฅ ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ “Would you like to grab lunch sometime?” ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ ํ˜•์„ฑ ๋†’์Œ (85% ์ด์ƒ)
์˜จ๋ผ์ธ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ƒ๋Œ€ “I really enjoy our chats. Want to be friends?” ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ๋А๊ปด์ง€๋ฉฐ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์ ์Œ ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ์ด์ƒ (70% ์ด์ƒ)
์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•œ ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ํ˜„์žฅ “No pressure, just wanted to say hi.” ๊ธด์žฅ ์™„ํ™” ๋ฐ ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ ์กฐ์„ฑ ๋†’์Œ (80% ์ด์ƒ)

4. ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ค๊ธฐ: ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์ ·์‚ฌํšŒ์  ์š”์ธ ๋ถ„์„

1) ์‹ ๋ขฐ ๊ตฌ์ถ•๊ณผ ์šฐ์ •์˜ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™

์˜์–ด๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”ํƒ•์œผ๋กœ ์„œ์„œํžˆ ๋ฐœ์ „ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฒ˜์Œ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ “Let’s be friends”๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” ์ƒํ˜ธ ๊ด€์‹ฌ๊ณผ ๊ณต๊ฐ๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์Œ“๋Š” ๊ณผ์ •์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜์ฃ .

์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์— ์ง„์‹ฌ์œผ๋กœ ๊ท€ ๊ธฐ์šธ์ด๊ณ  ๊ณต๊ฐํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๊ฐ€ ์šฐ์ • ํ˜•์„ฑ์˜ ํ•ต์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ „์— ๋Œ€ํ™”์™€ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๋ฌธํ™”๋ณ„ ์ฐจ์ด์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ

๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋น„๊ต์  ๋น ๋ฅธ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ ํ˜•์„ฑ์„ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ์˜๊ตญ์ด๋‚˜ ์บ๋‚˜๋‹ค ๋“ฑ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋” ์‹ ์ค‘ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ ์ง„์ ์ธ ์ ‘๊ทผ์„ ์ค‘์‹œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์˜ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ๊ณผ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ•๋„ ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” “How about hanging out this weekend?”์™€ ๊ฐ™์ด ๋น ๋ฅธ ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, ์˜๊ตญ์—์„œ๋Š” ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ˜ “Would you be interested in meeting up sometime?”๊ฐ€ ์„ ํ˜ธ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ทธ๋ฃน ๋‚ด ์šฐ์ •๊ณผ ๊ฐœ์ธ์  ์นœ๋ถ„์˜ ์ฐจ์ด

์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ์‚ฌํšŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋ฃน ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ๊ฐœ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์˜ ๊ตฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ๊ทธ๋ฃน ๋‚ด์—์„œ ๋จผ์ € ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ์Œ“๊ณ , ์ดํ›„ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์ž๋Š” ์ œ์•ˆ์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋ฃน ํ™œ๋™์ด๋‚˜ ๊ณต๋™ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋กœ ํ™•์žฅํ•˜๋Š” ์ „๋žต์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„์˜ ์•ˆ์ •์„ฑ๊ณผ ์ง€์†์„ฑ์„ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ A: ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ๊ณต๊ฐ์ด ์Œ“์ธ ํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ B: ๋ฌธํ™”๋ณ„ ์ฐจ์ด์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ๊ณผ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์„ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ C: ๊ทธ๋ฃน ๋‚ด ์šฐ์ •์„ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ์นœ๋ถ„์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐœ์ „์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ์ „๋žต์„ ์ถ”์ฒœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

5. ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค์™€ ํ†ค, ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ์„ ํƒ๋ฒ•

1) ํ†ค์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ ํšจ๊ณผ ๋ถ„์„

์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์— ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋˜๋Š” ํ†ค์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์— ํฐ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์นฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•œ ํ†ค์€ ๊ธ์ •์  ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์œ ๋„ํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฐ•์••์ ์ธ ํ†ค์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด๊ฐ์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, “I’d love to be friends with you”๋Š” ์กด์ค‘๊ณผ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ๋‹ด์•„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด “I want to be friends with you”๋Š” ์ง„์ง€ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค์†Œ ๋ฌด๊ฑฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ ๊ฐ€์ด๋“œ

์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “Would you like to hang out sometime?” ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์šด ์ œ์•ˆ์ด ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฏธ ์นœ๋ถ„์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “I really enjoy our talks, hope we can be good friends.”์™€ ๊ฐ™์ด ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋‹ด์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋˜ํ•œ, ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ฐœ์ธ์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” “It would be great to connect outside work sometime.”๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ณต์‹์ ์ธ ํ†ค์ด ๋‚ซ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ ๋Œ€์‘๊ณผ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€๋ฒ•

๊ฑฐ์ ˆ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋„ ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ˜ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. “No worries, maybe another time!”์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ง์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ œ์•ˆ์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋œ์–ด์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ ํ›„์—๋„ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•ด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ , ๋ฏธ๋ž˜์˜ ์šฐ์ • ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์„ ์—ด์–ด๋‘˜ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ํƒœ๋„์™€ ์ดํ•ด์‹ฌ์ด ์ข‹์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๋น„๊ฒฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ ํ†ค ํŠน์ง•
“I’d love to be friends with you” ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ, ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์ œ์•ˆ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์›€ ์กด์ค‘๊ณผ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ ์ „๋‹ฌ
“Would you like to hang out sometime?” ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์šด ๋งŒ๋‚จ ์ œ์•ˆ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด๊ฐ ๊ฐ์†Œ
“I want to be friends with you” ์ง„์ง€ํ•œ ์˜์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์ง€ํ•จ ๋ฌด๊ฑฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ
“No worries, maybe another time!” ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ ์‹œ ๋Œ€์‘ ์นœ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฆ„ ๊ด€๊ณ„ ์œ ์ง€์— ๋„์›€

6. ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ, ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์ „ํ•  ๋•Œ ํ”ํ•œ ์‹ค์ˆ˜์™€ ๊ต์ •๋ฒ•

1) ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ง์„ค์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ

“I want to be friends with you” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค์†Œ ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋“ค๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ๋А๋ผ๊ธฐ ์‰ฝ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—, ์ข€ ๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋Œ€์‹  “I’d really like to get to know you better”์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ด๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ ‘๊ทผ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•œ ๊ฐ‘์ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ œ์•ˆ

๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ์Œ“์ด์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ƒํƒœ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์ž๋Š” ๋ง์„ ๊ฐ‘์ž๊ธฐ ๊บผ๋‚ด๋ฉด ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๋‹นํ•  ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ๋†’์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋จผ์ € ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•œ ํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ณผ์ •์„ ๋จผ์ € ๊ฑฐ์น˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ๋ฌด์‹œํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„

์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๋ง์„ค์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ, ์ด๋ฅผ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ณ„์† ๋ฐ€์–ด๋ถ™์ด๋ฉด ์˜คํžˆ๋ ค ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์•…ํ™”๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

“No worries, maybe another time”์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ๋Œ€์‘์„ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ณ , ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์˜์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์žฅ๊ธฐ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ข‹์€ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ์—ด์‡ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ A: ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„์ด์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ B: ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋А ์ •๋„ ํ˜•์„ฑ๋œ ํ›„์— ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ C: ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

7. ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ (FAQ)

Q. “I want to be friends with you” ๋Œ€์‹  ๋” ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ๋Š” “I’d love to be friends with you”๋‚˜ “Would you like to hang out sometime?”์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋“ค์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ์„ ์ „ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์„ ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์€ ํƒ€์ด๋ฐ์€ ์–ธ์ œ์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆ์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ์–ด๋А ์ •๋„ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ์Œ“์€ ํ›„์— ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์ด๋ฅธ ์‹œ์ ์— ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฏ€๋กœ, ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๊ด€์‹ฌ๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ€ ์Œ“์ธ ๋’ค๊ฐ€ ์ ์ ˆํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ๊ฑฐ์ ˆ๋‹นํ–ˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€์ฒ˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ์ข‹์„๊นŒ์š”?
์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ๊ฒฝ์šฐ “No worries, maybe another time!” ๋˜๋Š” “I understand, thanks for letting me know.” ๊ฐ™์€ ์˜ˆ์˜ ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ์ž…์žฅ์„ ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์ œ์•ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์—์„œ๋Š” ๋น„์–ธ์–ด์  ์‹ ํ˜ธ๊ฐ€ ์—†๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์ง€๋„๋ก ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ์จ์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์ฒœ์ฒœํžˆ ๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ฆฌ๊ณ , ๋ถ€๋‹ด์„ ์ฃผ์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์˜์–ด๊ถŒ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•  ๋•Œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ๊ณต๊ฐ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์นœ๊ตฌ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋Š” ๊ฐ‘์ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์‹œ์ž‘๋˜๊ธฐ๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” ์„œ๋กœ์˜ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์‚ฌ์™€ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๋ฉด์„œ ์ ์ง„์ ์œผ๋กœ ์Œ“์—ฌ๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ๊ด€์‹ฌ๊ณผ ์กด์ค‘์ด ์ข‹์€ ์šฐ์ •์˜ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ์˜ ์ธ๊ธฐ ๊ฒŒ์‹œ๋ฌผ

๊ฐ์‹ค ์ฒญ์†Œ ์š”์ฒญ·๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์“ฐ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ ํ˜ธํ…” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ •๋ฆฌ

์ง€๊ธˆ ๋†“์น˜๋ฉด ํ›„ํšŒํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๋“€์˜ค๋ง๊ณ  ํ”„๋ฆฌ๋ฏธ์—„ ๋ฌด๋ฃŒ ์ฒดํ—˜ํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”

๋งต๊ธฐ ์กฐ์ ˆ ์š”์ฒญ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜์„ธ์š”