์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด๊ฐ€ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ๊ท€๋ ค๋ฉด ๊ผญ ์•Œ์•„์•ผ ํ•  ํ‘œํ˜„

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์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด๋ผ๋„ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๊ท€๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๊ผญ ์•Œ์•„์•ผ ํ•  ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘๋ฒ•๊นŒ์ง€, ์–ด๋–ค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์–ด๋–ค ๋ง์„ ์จ์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด๊ฐ€ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ๊ณผ ์นœํ•ด์ง€๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋ฐ˜๋“œ์‹œ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ผ๊นŒ์š”? ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: ์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด๊ฐ€ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๋”ฐ๋ผ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ์ธ์‚ฌ์™€ ์ž๊ธฐ์†Œ๊ฐœ ํ‘œํ˜„ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋ฐ ์œ ์šฉํ•œ ์งˆ๋ฌธ๊ณผ ๋ฐ˜์‘ ํ‘œํ˜„ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์นญ์ฐฌ๊ณผ ๊ด€์‹ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ• 1. ์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด๊ฐ€ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ๊ท€๊ธฐ์— ๊ผญ ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ์ธ์‚ฌ์™€ ์ž๊ธฐ์†Œ๊ฐœ ํ‘œํ˜„ 1) ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง๋กœ ์ฒซ์ธ์ƒ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ธฐ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ์ฒซ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฑด๋„ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "Hi", "Hello", "How are you?" ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋ง์€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ๋‚˜ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์ฒซ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ์ž‘์— ์ ํ•ฉ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•œ ์ธ์‚ฌ๋งŒ์œผ๋กœ๋„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์—ด๋ฆฐ ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2) ์ž์‹ ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ์งˆ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ• ์ž๊ธฐ์†Œ๊ฐœ๋Š” ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๊ท€๋Š” ๋ฐ ํ•„์ˆ˜์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "My name is~", "I’m from~" ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ "Where are you from?" ๊ฐ™์€ ์งˆ๋ฌธ์„ ๋˜์ง€๋ฉด ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๋”์šฑ ํ™œ๋ฐœํ•ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 3) ๋ฐœ์Œ๊ณผ ์–ต์–‘์— ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ์“ฐ๊ธฐ ์˜์–ด ์ดˆ๋ณด์ผ ๋•Œ๋Š” ๋ฐœ์Œ์— ์ž์‹ ์ด ์—†์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ, ์ฒœ์ฒœํžˆ ๋˜๋ฐ•๋˜๋ฐ• ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ต์–‘์„ ์‚ด์ง ์˜ฌ๋ ค ์งˆ๋ฌธํ˜•์œผ๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋ฉด ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐœ์Œ์— ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ์“ฐ๊ธฐ๋ณด๋‹ค ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต ์˜์ง€๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์šฐ์„ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. 2. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ด์–ด๊ฐ€๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ๊ณผ ๋ฐ˜์‘ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ฒ• 1) ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜...

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด” ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ, “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด”๋ผ๋Š” ๋ง์„ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ• ์ง€ ๊ณ ๋ฏผํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ„์ด ๋งŽ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹จ์ˆœํ•œ ์ง์—ญ๋ณด๋‹ค ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ์–ด์šธ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์•Œ์•„๋‘๋ฉด ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ํ›จ์”ฌ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฌ์›Œ์ง€์ฃ . ๊ทธ๋ ‡๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„๋กœ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ ํ•ฉํ•œ ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ผ๊นŒ์š”?

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 1: “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด”๋ฅผ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„์œผ๋กœ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 2: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋‰˜์•™์Šค ์ดํ•ด์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์š”์•ฝ 3: ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ตฌ์ฒด์ ์ธ ์˜ˆ์‹œ์™€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ• ์†Œ๊ฐœ

1. ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด”๋ฅผ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•๊ณผ ์˜๋ฏธ ์ „๋‹ฌ

1) “I feel comfortable around you” – ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ง๊ด€์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„

“I feel comfortable around you”๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ์•ˆ์ •์„ ๋А๋‚€๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋กœ, ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ์ •์ ์ด์ง€ ์•Š์•„ ์ผ์ƒ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ๋„๋ฆฌ ์“ฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํŠนํžˆ ์ฒ˜์Œ ์นœํ•ด์ง€๋Š” ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์กฐ์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) “Being with you feels easy” – ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ข€ ๋” ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌ

“Being with you feels easy”๋Š” ‘ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์‰ฝ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†๋‹ค’๋Š” ๋А๋‚Œ์„ ์ฃผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์„œ ‘easy’๋Š” ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ๊ณผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›€์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•ด, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ํŠน๋ณ„ํžˆ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๋‹ค๋Š” ๋‰˜์•™์Šค๋ฅผ ๋‹ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์นœ๊ตฌ๋‚˜ ์—ฐ์ธ ์‚ฌ์ด์— ์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋˜๋ฉฐ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) “I’m at ease when I’m with you” – ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ํฌ๋ฉ€ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ง„์‹ฌ์„ ๋‹ด์€ ํ‘œํ˜„

“I’m at ease when I’m with you”๋Š” ๊ณต์‹์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์ง€ํ•œ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ์“ฐ๊ธฐ ์ข‹์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘at ease’๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ๋†“์ด๊ณ  ๊ธด์žฅ์ด ํ’€๋ฆฐ ์ƒํƒœ๋ฅผ ๋œปํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ ๋А๋ผ๋Š” ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ๊ด€๊ณ„๋‚˜ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๋งŒ๋‚จ์—์„œ๋„ ์ ์ ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2. ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„๋กœ ๋‹ฌ๋ผ์ง€๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋‰˜์•™์Šค ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ธฐ

1) ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ์นœ๊ทผํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ๋Š” “You make me feel relaxed”๋‚˜ “It’s easy to be myself around you” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋“ค์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋•๋ถ„์— ๊ธด์žฅ์ด ํ’€๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๋œป์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์นœ๋ฐ€ํ•จ์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•˜๋ฉฐ, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์—ฐ์ธ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์šด ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ๋•Œ

์—ฐ์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ๋Š” “I feel safe with you”๋‚˜ “You make me feel at home” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ์‚ฌ์šฉ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ‘safe’์™€ ‘at home’์€ ๊ฐ์ •์  ์•ˆ์ •๊ณผ ์†Œ์†๊ฐ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ด ์‚ฌ๋ž‘๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ๋•Œ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ•ํ•œ ์œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ์„ ์‹ฌ์–ด์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ณต์‹์  ๋˜๋Š” ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„

๊ณต์‹์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ๋Š” “I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ์˜ ๋œป์„ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ์“ฐ๋ฉด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ๋А๋ผ๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ˜ ํ‘œํ˜„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ํ”„๋กœํŽ˜์…”๋„ํ•œ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ์œ ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ฃผ์š” ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ •๋ฆฌ

  • ์นœ๊ตฌ: “You make me feel relaxed”, “It’s easy to be myself around you”
  • ์—ฐ์ธ: “I feel safe with you”, “You make me feel at home”
  • ๊ณต์‹: “I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”
ํ‘œํ˜„ ์˜๋ฏธ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์ƒํ™ฉ ๋‰˜์•™์Šค
I feel comfortable around you ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ ์ผ์ƒ, ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด ์ง๊ด€์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด
Being with you feels easy ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์Œ ์นœ๊ตฌ, ์—ฐ์ธ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•œ
I’m at ease when I’m with you ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ๋†“์ž„ ๊ณต์‹, ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ํฌ๋ฉ€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง„์ง€ํ•œ
You make me feel relaxed ๊ธด์žฅ ์™„ํ™” ์นœ๊ตฌ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ ๊ฐ•์กฐ

๋‹ค์Œ ๋‹จ๊ณ„์—์„œ๋Š” ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์„ ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ํ™œ์šฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ์˜ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ฐจ์ด์™€ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ ์„ ์ž์„ธํžˆ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. EF English Live ๊ณต์‹ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด, ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ์ด ์›ํ™œํ•œ ์†Œํ†ต์— ๋งค์šฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3. ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด” ํ‘œํ˜„ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๊ธฐ: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ๋Œ€ํ™” ํŒ๊ณผ ์ „๋žต

1) ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ ์Œ“๊ธฐ

์ฒ˜์Œ ๋งŒ๋‚œ ์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€ ๋Œ€ํ™”ํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” “I feel comfortable around you” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์ด ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ์ „ํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ์„ ์ค€๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•ด ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์ฒซ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋‚จ๊ธธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์ฃ .

์ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋’ค์— “It’s easy to talk to you”๋‚˜ “You make me feel relaxed” ๋“ฑ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐํ•˜๋ฉด ๋Œ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๋”์šฑ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›Œ์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์—ฐ์ธ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•

์—ฐ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “Being with you feels easy”๋‚˜ “You make me feel at home” ๊ฐ™์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋•Œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์‚ดํ”ผ๋ฉฐ “I feel safe with you”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ฐ์ •์  ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ์„ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋ฉด ์‹ ๋ขฐ๊ฐ€ ๋”์šฑ ๊นŠ์–ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํŠนํžˆ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์ด๋‚˜ ๋‹คํˆผ ํ›„ ํ™”ํ•ด ์‹œ์—๋„ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ํšŒ๋ณต์— ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ์ง์žฅ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๊ธฐ

๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ๋ฏธํŒ…์ด๋‚˜ ๊ณต์‹ ๋ชจ์ž„์—์„œ๋Š” “I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ์ง€ํ‚ค๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ž„์„ ์•Œ๋ฆด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ํ”„๋กœํŽ˜์…”๋„ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ์ธ๊ฐ„์ ์ธ ๋ฉด๋ชจ๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ๋Š” ํ†ค๊ณผ ํ‘œ์ •์—๋„ ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ์จ์„œ ์ง„์‹ฌ์„ ๋‹ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ A: ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ๋Œ€ํ™”ํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„ ํ›„ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ›„์† ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋ฅผ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ B: ๊ฐ์ •์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ๋•Œ๋Š” ์ง„์ •์„ฑ ์žˆ๋Š” ํ†ค๊ณผ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๋Š” ์ œ์Šค์ฒ˜๋ฅผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ C: ๊ณต์‹ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐ์‚ฌ์˜ ๋œป์„ ํฌํ•จํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ์„ ํƒํ•ด ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ”๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

4. ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ “ํŽธํ•˜๋‹ค” ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ์ฐจ์ด์™€ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ : ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฏผ๊ฐ์„ฑ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ธฐ

1) ์„œ์–‘ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ๊ณผ ๋™์–‘ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์˜ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ฐจ์ด

์„œ์–‘์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐœ์ธ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •๊ณผ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝํ–ฅ์ด ๊ฐ•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ “I feel comfortable around you” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ์ฃ .

๋ฐ˜๋ฉด ๋™์–‘ ๋ฌธํ™”๊ถŒ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋…ธ๊ณจ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ”ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์•„, ์ข€ ๋” ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์™„๊ณกํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๋ฌธํ™”๋ณ„ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์‹œ ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฐœ์ƒํ•˜๋Š” ์˜คํ•ด์™€ ํ•ด๊ฒฐ๋ฒ•

์™ธ๊ตญ์ธ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ “It’s easy to be myself around you”๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•ด๋„, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ‘๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ’ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์—ฌ์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿด ๋• ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ์„ค๋ช…์ด๋‚˜ ์˜ˆ์‹œ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด ์˜คํ•ด๋ฅผ ์ค„์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฌธํ™” ์ฐจ์ด๋ฅผ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ณ  ์กด์ค‘ํ•˜๋Š” ํƒœ๋„๊ฐ€ ์›ํ™œํ•œ ์†Œํ†ต์˜ ์—ด์‡ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋งฅ๋ฝ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„ ์„ ํƒ ๊ฐ€์ด๋“œ

์นœ๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ๊ฐ€๋ฒผ์šด ํ‘œํ˜„์„, ์—ฐ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋‹ด์€ ํ‘œํ˜„์„, ๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—๋Š” ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ˜ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ธฐ๋ณธ ์›์น™์„ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

๋”๋ถˆ์–ด ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์ž์ฃผ ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์ด๋‚˜ ๊ธˆ๊ธฐ์–ด๋ฅผ ๋ฏธ๋ฆฌ ์•Œ์•„๋‘๋ฉด ๋”์šฑ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

5. ๊ฒฝํ—˜ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜ ๋น„๊ต: ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ “ํŽธํ•˜๋‹ค” ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ํšจ๊ณผ์™€ ํ™œ์šฉ๋„ ๋ถ„์„

1) ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ ์ „๋‹ฌ๋ ฅ ๋น„๊ต

“You make me feel relaxed”๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ๋†’์€ ์นœ๊ทผ๊ฐ๊ณผ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋ฅผ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹ค์ œ ์‚ฌ์šฉ์ž ๋ฆฌ๋ทฐ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด 85% ์ด์ƒ์ด ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ํ•œ์ธต ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์›Œ์กŒ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋‹ตํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฐ˜๋ฉด ๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ ๋™์ผํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์–ด์ƒ‰ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ๊ฐ์ •์  ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ๊นŠ์ด ์ฐจ์ด

“I feel safe with you”์™€ “You make me feel at home”์€ ํŠนํžˆ ์—ฐ์ธ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ฐ€์กฑ ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ ๊นŠ์€ ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ๊ณผ ์†Œ์†๊ฐ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์žฅ๊ธฐ๊ฐ„ ์‚ฌ์šฉ ์‹œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ์œ ๋Œ€๊ฐ์ด ๊ฐ•ํ™”๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝํ–ฅ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ณต์‹ ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ์˜ ์‹ ๋ขฐ๋„ ๋ฐ ์˜ˆ์˜ ํ‘œํ˜„

“I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”์€ ๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ํ™˜๊ฒฝ์—์„œ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์—๊ฒŒ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋™์‹œ์— ์ „ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์–ด ๋†’์€ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ํ˜‘์ƒ์ด๋‚˜ ํ˜‘์—…์˜ ๊ธ์ •์  ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ๋ฅผ ์ด๋Œ์–ด๋‚ธ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ถ„์„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ‘œํ˜„ ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ ์ „๋‹ฌ๋ ฅ ๊ฐ์ •์  ์•ˆ์ •๊ฐ ๊ณต์‹์  ์ ํ•ฉ๋„
You make me feel relaxed ๋†’์Œ (85% ๊ธ์ • ๋ฐ˜์‘) ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ๋‚ฎ์Œ
I feel safe with you ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ๋งค์šฐ ๋†’์Œ ์ค‘๊ฐ„
Being with you feels easy ๋†’์Œ ๋†’์Œ ๋‚ฎ์Œ
I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ๋†’์Œ ๋งค์šฐ ๋†’์Œ

6. ์ถ”์ฒœ ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ํ™œ์šฉ ์ „๋žต: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ์ตœ์ ์˜ ์˜์–ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๊ธฐ

1) ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„ ํ˜•์„ฑ์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ถ”์ฒœ ๋ฌธ์žฅ

์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ๋Š” “It’s easy to be myself around you”๋‚˜ “You make me feel relaxed”๋ฅผ ์ž์ฃผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„๋“ค์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋”๋ถˆ์–ด ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ “I enjoy spending time with you” ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ธ์ •์  ๋ฉ˜ํŠธ๋„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

2) ์—ฐ์ธ๊ณผ์˜ ๊นŠ์€ ๊ฐ์ • ๊ณต์œ ๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ํ™œ์šฉ๋ฒ•

์—ฐ์ธ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” “You make me feel at home”๊ณผ “I feel safe with you”๋ฅผ ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ์„ž์–ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์— ์ง์ ‘์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ํ‘œํ˜„์ด ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋”์šฑ ๋ˆ๋…ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํŠนํžˆ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋‚˜ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ๊ตฌ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐฐ๊ฐ€๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

3) ๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๋™์‹œ์— ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ํŒ

๋น„์ฆˆ๋‹ˆ์Šค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋Š” “I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”์„ ๋ฉ”์ธ์œผ๋กœ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋˜, ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋„ ๋ฐ˜๋“œ์‹œ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜์„ธ์š”. “Thank you for making this conversation so comfortable” ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ๋„ ์ถ”์ฒœ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋กœ์จ ์ „๋ฌธ์„ฑ๊ณผ ์ธ๊ฐ„๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๋™์‹œ์— ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ D: ์ƒํ™ฉ๋ณ„ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ํ˜ผ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ๋”์šฑ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์ง„์‹ฌ์ด ์ „ํ•ด์ง‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ E: ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์ฃผ์˜ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ์‚ดํ”ผ๊ณ  ์ ์ ˆํžˆ ๋งž์ถฐ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ํ•ต์‹ฌ ํŒ F: ๊ณต์‹ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐ์‚ฌ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ๊ผญ ํฌํ•จํ•ด ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ์ง€ํ‚ค์„ธ์š”.

7. ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฌป๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ (FAQ)

Q. “I feel comfortable around you”์™€ “Being with you feels easy”๋Š” ์–ด๋–ค ์ฐจ์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
๋‘ ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ชจ๋‘ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, “I feel comfortable around you”๋Š” ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ์•ˆ์ •์— ์ดˆ์ ์„ ๋‘” ๋ฐ˜๋ฉด, “Being with you feels easy”๋Š” ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ์˜ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›€๊ณผ ๋ถ€๋‹ด ์—†์Œ์— ์ข€ ๋” ์ดˆ์ ์„ ๋งž์ถฅ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋”ฐ๋ผ์„œ ์ „์ž๋Š” ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋” ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ง์„ค์ ์ด๋ฉฐ, ํ›„์ž๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€๋“œ๋Ÿฝ๊ณ  ์นœ๊ทผํ•จ์„ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•  ๋•Œ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ๊ณต์‹์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ “๊ฐ™์ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํŽธํ•ด”๋ฅผ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ๋•Œ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ์ ์€ ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
๊ณต์‹์ ์ธ ์ž๋ฆฌ์—์„œ๋Š” ์ง€๋‚˜์น˜๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ์ •์ ์ธ ํ‘œํ˜„๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜ˆ์˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐ–์ถ”๊ณ  ๊ฐ์‚ฌ์˜ ๋œป์„ ํฌํ•จํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I appreciate how comfortable you make me feel”์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฐฐ๋ ค์— ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ „ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ๋„ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฌธ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ, ํ†ค๊ณผ ํ‘œ์ •๋„ ์‹ ์ค‘ํžˆ ๊ด€๋ฆฌํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ๋ฌธํ™”์  ์ฐจ์ด ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์˜คํ•ดํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
๋„ค, ๋ฌธํ™”์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๊ฐ์ • ํ‘œํ˜„ ๋ฐฉ์‹์ด ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์˜คํ•ด๊ฐ€ ๋ฐœ์ƒํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ง์ ‘์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ถ€๋‹ด์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋А๊ปด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿด ๋•Œ๋Š” ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ์˜ ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์„ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ณ , ์ข€ ๋” ๊ฐ„์ ‘์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์™„๊ณกํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์—ฐ์ธ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ “You make me feel at home”์ด๋ผ๋Š” ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์–ธ์ œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ ์ ˆํ•œ๊ฐ€์š”?
์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์„œ๋กœ์—๊ฒŒ ๊นŠ์€ ์‹ ๋ขฐ์™€ ์†Œ์†๊ฐ์„ ๋А๋‚„ ๋•Œ ์ ํ•ฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ ๋Œ€ํ™” ์ค‘ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ์„ ๋•Œ ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ์•ˆ์ •๋˜๊ณ  ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ๋А๋‚€๋‹ค๋Š” ๋œป์„ ์ „ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์„ ๋•Œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์„ธ์š”. ํŠนํžˆ ํž˜๋“  ์‹œ๊ธฐ๋‚˜ ๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ทจ์•ฝํ•  ๋•Œ ์ง„์‹ฌ์„ ์ „ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
Q. ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ “It’s easy to be myself around you” ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์ž˜ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ํŒ์ด ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”?
์ด ํ‘œํ˜„์€ ์ƒ๋Œ€๋ฐฉ ๋•๋ถ„์— ๋ณธ์—ฐ์˜ ๋ชจ์Šต์„ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚ผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๋กœ, ์‹ ๋ขฐ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ํ˜•์„ฑ๋œ ์นœ๊ตฌ ์‚ฌ์ด์—์„œ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๊ธฐ ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ๋งž๊ฒŒ ๋ง๋ถ™์—ฌ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ด๋ฉฐ, ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด “I don’t feel judged”๋‚˜ “I can relax completely” ๊ฐ™์€ ์ถ”๊ฐ€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์„ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜๋ฉด ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ์„ ๋” ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ์˜ ์ธ๊ธฐ ๊ฒŒ์‹œ๋ฌผ

๊ฐ์‹ค ์ฒญ์†Œ ์š”์ฒญ·๊ฑฐ์ ˆํ•  ๋•Œ ์“ฐ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ ํ˜ธํ…” ์˜์–ด ํ‘œํ˜„ ์ •๋ฆฌ

์ง€๊ธˆ ๋†“์น˜๋ฉด ํ›„ํšŒํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๋“€์˜ค๋ง๊ณ  ํ”„๋ฆฌ๋ฏธ์—„ ๋ฌด๋ฃŒ ์ฒดํ—˜ํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”

๋งต๊ธฐ ์กฐ์ ˆ ์š”์ฒญ ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์˜์–ด๋กœ ๋งํ•˜์„ธ์š”